Friday, November 04, 2005

What is domestic violence?

When domestic violence involves children, it can either be direct and intentional or indirect and accidental. If it is direct and intentional then it is considered to be a deliberate and willful act that has been carried out with the purpose of injuring the child. If it is indirect and accidental then the damage results when a child lives with family violence. In this case, the youth is not the target of the violence, but must live with the pain and suffering which results from such experiences. This is why the terms “domestic violence” and “family violence” are interchangeable.


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24 Comments:

At 3:13 PM, Blogger Familias en Paz said...

Hi Brenda, I am glad that you were able to leave that abusive relationship. I am very pleased for you and your daugther.
God Bless you and give you all the strenght you need to continue in life. I run groups for abused women and for abusers as well.
I have my own bog in Spanish but you can sign if you want in English. The name Familias en Paz
www.familiaenpaz.blogspot.com
Hope we can keep in touch.
Good luck and say hello to your dauthter.
Alberto Olarte

 
At 2:06 PM, Blogger support the survivor said...

I too was a victim of domestic violence and know exactally where you are coming from and where you are headed. I'm thrilled you have a site that speaks to women who need help. I just hope those women can get here...
I too have a site. http://supportthesurvivor.blogspot.com/
It's informational just like yours.
Keep up the great articles and don't loose site of why it is so important to do this.

Tiffany

 
At 1:19 PM, Blogger EllenT said...

Hi, Brenda. Congrats on your progress and your blog. As many of your posts indicate, domestic violence impacts the health of the survivor and she suvivor's family.

To see articles about this or to learn to use journaling for getting better, please visit.www.healthaftertrauma.com

We would be delighted to get articles from you for our newsletter...

 
At 10:36 PM, Blogger Chirp88 said...

Hi Brenda Hoffman, it’s late in the evening, quiet and peaceful. This is good computer time for me. I thought I would check on Home Business and see what came up. What is domestic violence? is something that is interesting to many people. I will also spend a little time checking on Home Business. Getting late, have a good evening.

 
At 1:34 AM, Blogger Chirp88 said...

Hi Brenda Hoffman, it’s late in the evening, quiet and peaceful. This is good computer time for me. I thought I would check on Help Others Increase Income and see what came up. What is domestic violence? is something that is interesting to many people. I will also spend a little time checking on Help Others Increase Income. Getting late, have a good evening.

 
At 6:26 AM, Blogger carol said...

wow i am so happy to find other survivors, my journey as a survivor has been so incredibly lonely and i have only come across people who help those in the relationship rather than those who have left. i will visit the suggested blogs and hopefully have a channel to share my ongoing joys and struggles.
i have been free from the relationship for 10 years now
love Carol

 
At 9:45 AM, Blogger Simply_Beautiful said...

I was born in Fort Worth Texas. I lived there with my mother and younger sister until 1997. My sister’s father was verbally, emotionally and physically aggressive toward all 3 of us for several years. My mother in fearing for her life and ours, left her family, profession, home and lifestyle behind to move to a country where we knew no one. Costa Rica.

We have lived in Costa Rica for the past 11 years. Mom got married. I now have 2 more sisters and 2 stepsisters. The United States is attempting to extradite my mother on international parental kidnapping charges. My mother has been incarcerated for almost 11 months here in Costa Rica fighting the extradition charges.

My family is my Mother, Chere Tomayko (46), my stepfather, Javier Montero (51), myself, Chandler Tomayko (21), my sisters Alexandria Tomayko (19), Mariela Montero (16), Carolina Montero (14), Sophia Montero (8) and Arianna Montero (5).

It is unjust for them to persecute a woman for protecting her children, is that not what we expect mothers to do? My mother is being persecuted and my family is being torn apart. I am asking anyone with a sense of family and love to join our cause and help me in petitioning against the extradition of my mother and allowing her to come home.

Please send this to everyone you know. If you would like more information please contact me.
far2fragile@gmail.com

The petition is posted on this website:
http://www.firmasonline.com/1firmas/camp1.asp?C=1660

 
At 1:58 PM, Blogger jwp said...

We did a really intense story that also mentions how domestic violence can affect children. You can read it in the New York Press here: http://nypress.com/21/33/news&columns/feature.cfm

 
At 11:40 AM, Blogger DADVVA said...

I have a blog where I connect with past and current victims of date and domestic violence (dadvva.blogspot.com). I am a former victim who believes we can overcome this together and help each other through it. Please add my blog to your blogroll and lets help support one another.

 
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At 11:33 AM, Blogger Silent Ministries Recovery Outreach said...

Silent Ministries Recovery Outreach
P.O. Box 1112
Lake Park, GA 31636

April 4, 2009
Hello, I would like to introduce myself and my ministry to you and your organization. I was writing to you in hopes of establishing a professional faith-based partnership with you and your organization.
Silent Ministries Recovery Outreach, Battered Abused Discriminated and Disadvantaged (BADD), headquartered in Lake Park, Ga., is a rapidly growing ministry known to more than 3600 members. Founders, Jim and Carolyn Harnage, have struggled long and hard to achieve the current status of their ministry. They truly believe that it is their life calling and purpose to those in need.

We are not an ordinary ministry. We are truly different and that is what makes us special. Our ministry utilizes the professions and talents of our staff and members to provide many services to people all over the world. We do not charge flat rates for any of our services. All services are paid for and provided by donations received. If clients are in an emergency situation and do not have finances available, we will provide services for free and foot the cost.

We are primarily concerned with providing services for battered and abused women or men, especially with children. Our ministry assists in getting protection orders, a safe place to stay and the necessities for building a new life. We provide cell phones and non-lethal self-defense products.

We also provide child support recovery services for those parents who have little luck with the system and cannot afford to pay the large fees presented by other agencies.

Other services provided include: employment searches, grief and abuse counseling, faith-based education, inmate ministry, prayer network of more than 3,000 people, and gifts of food, clothing and gifts to those in need. We are in desperate need of donations to fund our service projects. We would greatly appreciate it if you could kindly donate even the smallest amount towards our purpose.

If you are not comfortable with donating, we were hoping that your organization would be willing to join in a partnership with us to serve our clients. You may read more about us and our professional and personal testimonials by visiting our website at http://www.silentministries.org We are trying to establish website referrals from organizations similar to ours. We will offer your organization a spot on our network allies page of our website, if you will agree to place our html address on your website in return.

We are also offering six months of advertising for your organization for a small fee of $10 which will be placed in our newsletter distributed monthly to more than 3,000 members. You may place your order via paypal or secure checkout by visiting the donations page on our website.

We anticipate your response and thank you in advance for your support.
Please forward our e-mail on to anyone you know who may need our assistance. You may reach us at smrobadd@aol.com
Sincerely,
Miranda N. Rhuda
Executive Administrative Assistant for Minister Jim Harnage and Carolyn Harnage
Silent Ministries Recovery Outreach

 
At 6:30 PM, Blogger Kathy said...

Hello Brenda,

I too am I victim of domestic violence. I guess you could say that I have been for most of my life. Growing up my mother was abused by my father and boy friends and the husbands that followed. I was in an abusive relationship for nearly 23 years, mostly verbal. Since the age of 15 yrs. old. How I ended up in the same situation as my mother I'm not sure. Although I have been out of the relationship for nearly 1 1/2 years the fear of him killing me is still as strong as ever. However, I will continue to move forward and take what ever steps I can to protect myself. I hope that one day in this lifetime I will no longer live in fear.

 
At 2:04 PM, Blogger S Baker said...

Hello, I just wanted to say what a great you are doing with this issue! I work for a 501(c)3 organization that provides security, protection, education and such services to victims of DV at no cost, and despite our phone ringing all the time, we still are having an extreme problem with getting funding!

I think that this issue is still in the dark ages a bit, and what you are doing here is so great to get the work out!

Wonderful job!
sbaker33@du.edu

 
At 2:05 PM, Blogger S Baker said...

Hello, I just wanted to say what a great you are doing with this issue! I work for a 501(c)3 organization that provides security, protection, education and such services to victims of DV at no cost, and despite our phone ringing all the time, we still are having an extreme problem with getting funding!

I think that this issue is still in the dark ages a bit, and what you are doing here is so great to get the work out!

Wonderful job!
sbaker33@du.edu

 
At 9:59 AM, Blogger Peter Stone, MA, CPT,CART,CAS said...

The true nature of addiction, domestic abuse, and workplace violence is in their motivation. To read more: http://dare2discover.blogspot.com/

 
At 10:56 AM, Blogger Carrie said...

Brenda it is great that you got out of the abusive relationship that you were in. However some women are not so lucky. Marala Scott's memoir, In Our House, vividly documents the abuse suffered by her brothers, mother and herself. The details are enough to shock almost anyone! I 100% recommend checking out her website and her book, and you can also pass it on to loved ones if you like. http://www.inourhousebook.com http://inourhouse907.blogspot.com
Today she does speaking engagements and event to create awareness about the Indicators of an Abuser that she derived from her experiences in order to prevent domestic violence/child abuse before it happens. Stories like yours and Marala's truly inspire me to speak out on domestic violence and child abuse and work towards eliminating it in the future. Continue you to speak out, because strong women are what we need!

 
At 9:08 PM, Blogger K Simpson said...

I'm just starting to blog and use the internet to help my healing process. I have been out of my relationship since about 2005 (went back once and then was done.) I had no idea that the children were being abused too until I left. I just started my own blog and will be adding many documents to help others through their process. Thanks for being here.

 
At 8:15 AM, Blogger frocs said...

Take a look at a Welsh campaign that seeks to challenge the attitudes prevalent in society that perpetuate the normalisation of teh sexist attitudes that may lead to violence against women.

www.onesteptoofar.org

 
At 6:36 PM, Blogger EnnKay said...

Please sign and repost wherever possible.

Zaruhi Petrosyan, a 20 year old wife and mother, was tortured and murdered by her husband and his mother in Armenia. By signing this petition you are urging officials to prosecute Yanis Sarkisov and his mother for the murder of this young woman.

http://apps.facebook.com/petitions/3/demand-for-the-prosecution-of-yanis-sarkisov-and-the-arrest-and-prosecution-of-lilia-sarkisov-in-the/

 
At 3:05 PM, Blogger Lisa said...

I'm glad you wrote an article about kids and domestic violence and how it influences kids lives. I witness my mother being abused by my dad and it effectedme a lot.

 
At 3:06 PM, Blogger Lisa said...

I also made a blog about it called invisible victims.

 
At 12:44 PM, Blogger Caterpillar said...

Thank you for your blog! I have also created on sharing my story. take a moment to check it out please, I'd really appreciate it! http://survivingdomesticviolence2011.blogspot.com/

 
At 1:40 PM, Blogger jhlstyle said...

http://untilyousayuncle.blogspot.com/

 
At 4:07 AM, Blogger william said...

Thanks for the information it will really going to help me a lot.William C. Behrndt

 

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